Studies have shown that there is a direct correlation between the length of a marriage and the decrease of marital satisfaction. Put more simply, couples become less satisfied in their relationships the longer they’re together. That discontent can stem from any number of things, but for many couples, those problems come when the relationship becomes dull and unexciting.
While divorce and separation have grown more and more common, there’s no reason to let your relationship wither. If you and your partner put in a little effort, you can keep your relationship strong while enjoying the excitement of when it was new.
Try New Things Together
It’s common for long-term couples to fall into a rut. When you spend every day following the same routines, you aren’t engaging your brain with new, exciting activities that will get your neurons firing.
Try to shake things up by doing something different with your partner. Travel to a new place, or attempt a new hobby together. Not only will the two of you bond over the shared experience and have that memory for the future, but you’ll get your hearts pumping in sync with the thrill of something unfamiliar.
Indulge in Spontaneity
Another symptom of long-term relationship ruts is when you are unable or unwilling to be spontaneous. Instead of marveling at the romance of a candlelit dinner, you’re thinking about the price of the meal and the fate of the babysitter back home. While there’s nothing wrong with being practical, you don’t want to become so serious and sensible that you forget how to enjoy things with youthful abandon. It’s okay to let go and appreciate the white tablecloths every once in a while.
Your body will naturally lose things like bone density and skin plasticity as you age, but you can fight against the ravages of time by engaging in positive, proactive steps to stay healthy. For example, you might increase your calcium intake to prevent bone loss from turning into osteoporosis. You might consider hormone therapy treatment services to supplement your estrogen or testosterone after a certain age. There are many ways that modern medicine can help you beat the clock. Feeling healthier and stronger can help you feel more confident in your relationship.
Remember the Romance
There’s a reason why you fell in love with your partner, so don’t take it for granted now. Find the good memories that you have stashed away in your heart, and build a better future, by taking a peek into the past. Recreate your first dates, or start sharing little touches, gifts and words of affirmation like you did when you first fell in love. One of the best ways to rekindle the spark in your relationship is to remind yourself of what started the fire in the first place.
Maybe you’re fresh off the honeymoon and already thinking about the future. Maybe you’ve been married for 40 years and are wondering how to spice things up. Either way, these tips can help you keep the love alive no matter how long that it’s been since you said “I do.”