Of the many milestones that a parent experiences throughout his/her role and undoubtedly one of the most profound ones that often distinguish the caring parent from the overbearing one, is when the child starts daycare or formal schooling.
Allow Space to Create and Develop Himself:
To avoid becoming that overbearing parent that ends up stifling your child’s emotional and intellectual growth, freedom of exploration and creativity that develops self-confidence, there are lots of things that you should not do when your child starts schooling. For starters, don’t pop in – unannounced and uninvited – at random times during your child’s school day; this constant hovering may cause your child to become too dependent on seeing and expecting you throughout the school day instead of focusing on building new and healthy relationships with his/her peers and teachers during the day.
Be Around Your Child But Don’t Be Overbearing:
You should not do your child’s schoolwork or assignments for him/her. While it takes a lot of patience and encouragement to cheer up your child on as he/she completes assignments, actually doing the work for your child will never teach him/her the rewards of hard work. Overbearing parents are suffocating, exhausting, and stress-inducing to be around. They are so busy micro-managing every minute of their child’s life that they lose themselves in the process.
Teach Your Child to Act with Wisdom:
Of all the things you ought not to do – there are more that you can do to show you care without smothering your child. Teach them about identifying and getting out of possible dangerous situations and individuals. You don’t want your child going up to strangers’ cars or riding in childcare buses that are not safe because the driver is intoxicated, or operating a school bus that has no seatbelt. While it’s important not to spend your day at your child’s side in school, you can still have a “presence” at the school and volunteer for special events, to bring in treats, or to help the teacher as requested.
Entertainment is a Part of Education:
Further, from an early age, you need to know your child’s friends and classroom peers. If you have the room and your child’s class is small enough, you can plan a weekend afternoon holiday party or seasonal celebration with all the kids. Connect and collaborate with other moms so that they can help with expenses and so you can meet them as well. Caring parents are involved in their children’s lives without controlling all the minutes that make up the day’s activities.
Develop Individuality and Personality:
Every parent wants the very best for his/her child. You want your child to blossom into the authentic, caring, kind, and creative soul he/she is meant to be. While you have a lot to do with that, it is important to remember that your child has a personality, mind, and ideas of his/her own but they may never discover that, if you don’t give them the space to allow them to.